Manly Leadership

These words that I am commanding you today must always be on your minds. Recite them to your children. Talk about them when you are sitting around your house and when you are out and about, when you are lying down and when you are getting up. (Deut 6:6-7, CEB)


God expects me to be a male role model.  Today, the rules for being a good male role model change daily.  If you play golf, you might say that somebody keeps moving the OB (out-of-bounds) markers in between rounds.  Expectations have changed for me as a guy, as a husband and as a father.  When I was growing-up, my dad was right because he was “dad”.  Nowadays, questioning my decisions is the rite of associates, wives, teens and children.  “Why” is, apparently, a completely valid response to any decision that I make.  Oh, how times have changed from my belt-wielding father!  If this was not enough, society is adopting a moral code where right/wrong are situational and subject to everyone’s opinion.  Today’s cultural tolerance bids me to blindly accept secular perspectives of right/wrong on par with God’s standard.

Wise peers have counselled me to avoid some “My Way or the Highway” pitfalls.  These perspectives are lessons that I impress on my children … when I sit at home … when I walk along the road … when I lie down and when I get up..(Deut 6, different translation)  In short, my goal is for everyone to, “be God’s children, blameless, sincere and wholesome, living in a warped and diseased world, and shining there like lights in a dark place. For you hold in your hands the very word of life.” (Phil 2:15, JB Phillips) As the leader of my family, I reflect God’s authority and truth. I avoid the command/control pitfall by letting everyone know that I, too, and subject to God’s rules for healthy living! My job is to consistently model Christlikeness while challenging and encouraging others to do so.


As a friend, husband and dad, I declare God’s truths with love. Sometimes verbally, sometimes through actions. Yes, it takes more time and greater patience.  “What Would Jesus Do” is the focus!  I seek to understand what Jesus would do based on what he did!  My role is to be in-sync with Jesus’ reactions and lessons.  Furthermore, when His Law is being violated (or would be violated), my job is to correct wrong by communicating His truths with constructive firmness.  This takes biblical sensitivity and Spiritual guidance. I let His Law speak through me.  My job, as a role model, is to model how God’s Law applies to today’s issues … lovingly 

Brothers, we are in the same boat.  Unwittingly, society has a point. That point? My authority is not my authority.  I am caught in the middle when I use words like, “I said, it is wrong!” God defines moral right/wrong; not me.  My job is to lovingly point-out the path which God advises. I model Christlikeness when I say, “God said, it is wrong!” Then, I let His Holy Spirit work inside the hearts of others.  Still, in modeling truth in a loving manner, God expects me to use my practical, life experience to shed insight on:

The protection of His Law.  His Law protects us from the harmful consequences of poor choices (e.g., guilt, shame, broken relationships, disease, alienation, emotional distress, unfaithfulness and more).  This Law shields us from pitfalls.  

The provision of His Law.  His Law imparts rich reward (e.g., physical safety, spiritual fruit, security, trust, peace, intimacy, accomplishment, health, beauty, approval, integrity, clear conscience and more). The Law provides us with assurance.

Next Steps

God expects that I will lovingly model His truth.  As God’s man everywhere (at work, at home, at the gym, in the car, etc), my roles reflect God’s plan with purposeful living.  God doesn’t need me beating my chest, standing on a soapbox or crying-out, “I’m right, follow me!”  He challenges me to Christlikeness all the time, everyday.  Oh yes, and when doubts arise, I check my ego and turn to my brothers-in-Christ who walk in the same trenches.

“Happy are those
    who reject the advice of evil people,
    who do not follow the example of sinners
    or join those who have no use for God.
 Instead, they find joy in obeying the Law of the Lord,
    and they study it day and night.
They are like trees that grow beside a stream,
    that bear fruit at the right time,
    and whose leaves do not dry up.
They succeed in everything they do.”  (Psalm 1:1-3, GNT)