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Reprinted with permission from MIM Equipping Men Blog, published February 25, 2019

Men’s Ministry is Rocket Science

Men’s Ministry. How hard can it really be? Think about it: You’ve got men; you’ve got a church. Add a testimony, some pancakes, a prayer, and—poof!—a men’s ministry. Right?

We’ve worked with thousands of churches across America to help them disciple men. Leaders from churches all over the world have been through our leadership training classes. To encourage and motivate these leaders, we used to tell them: “Look. What we’re trying to do here is not rocket science.”

And then during one class…a new insight. As we stared at this group of leaders struggling to reach men in their churches, we realized these were not clueless men. Many were successful businessmen and leaders in their churches. They were accomplished, intelligent, hardworking men. And yet, year after year they were struggling to reach and disciple their men.

Why? Because men’s ministry is just grueling. As one of our leaders has said, “A man is a hard thing to reach.”

Fathering and Father’s Day

The Paradox of Men’s Ministry: It IS Rocket Science

When you are working with rockets, things are pretty objective. It’s all about physical laws and mathematical concepts like gravity, velocity, angles of ascent, and coefficients of drag. But men are not nearly as predictable. Rockets don’t get laid off, have trouble with their kids, or endure a health crisis.

Still there are some parallels between rocket science and men’s ministry. For example:

  • Gravity  Many men shoulder the burden of supporting a family financially, trying to be a good husband and father, and resisting the temptations of a world that wants to drag them down.
  • Velocity  New Christians go like gangbusters; but many men have been in church for a long time, and their enthusiasm is waning.
  • Angles of ascent – Some men get it and steadily move forward; others careen back and forth in their spiritual journey, veering off and hurting people as they go. The key is to ensure they are moving toward Christ-likeness.
  • Coefficients of drag – Jobs, soccer games, family problems, church commitments, hobbies…All of these seem to be pulling at men—leaders too—as they seek to develop their faith and their ministry.

If you’ve been struggling to get traction in your men’s ministry, this should bring you relief and hope. It brings relief when you understand it’s not just you (it really is hard to reach and disciple men) and hope because we have a strategy we’ll be showing you that can help you do it. You can reach men in your church. You can help them grow closer to Christ.

The Physics of Men’s Ministry

You must accept several constants, however, if you are going to launch and sustain a powerful men’s ministry. Here are three realistic parameters to remember:
  1. It takes a long time to make a disciple. Jesus spent three years with His disciples, traveling with them, eating with them, teaching them. Even then, one of them sold Him out, another denied he even knew Him, and all of them panicked and hid after Jesus was killed. How can we expect to make disciples in an eight—or even twenty-four—week class? The corollary to this is…
  2. It can take up to ten years to build and sustain a successful men’s ministry. That’s right. Ten years. As Richard Foster said, “Our tendency is to overestimate what we can accomplish in one year, but underestimate what we can accomplish in ten years.” There’s no such thing as an overnight men’s ministry success story. If you stick with it, eventually you’ll look around your church and see men who are disciples and leaders. You’ll realize that your ministry is responsible in some way for most of those men. And it will take TIME. You are not called to produce immediate results, just to be faithful.
  3. There are no “Five Easy Steps to an Effective Men’s Ministry.” There aren’t even five hard steps. We sometimes refer to this as Insert Tab A into Slot B Men’s Ministry. It just doesn’t work that way. We explain “why” and “how” to disciple men, but we don’t specify exactly “what” you should do. Instead, we help you plan your own concrete next steps according to the culture and needs of your church.
Rocket Launch

From Prototype to Manufacturing

The hard, cold reality is that we will not see a revival in America and the world if effective disciple-building of men in churches does not move from the prototype stage to the manufacturing stage. What do we mean by that?

Imagine you were alive in 1900. You might have seen an automobile drive through town. People would have gathered to point and stare at this unusual apparatus. But only twenty-five years later, to see an automobile would have been no big deal. Why? Because in 1913 Henry Ford invented the assembly line with a conveyor belt. By 1927 the Ford Motor Company had manufactured fifteen million Model T’s! Ford helped move the auto industry from the prototype stage to the manufacturing stage.

Right now, hundreds of churches are doing a wonderful job discipling men. You may have heard about some of them—we can all point and stare and learn from their success. But there are more than 360,000 churches in America (as of 2012).

Our passion is to see a dynamic disciple-making ministry to men in hundreds of thousands of churches.Discipling men needs to move from an unusual activity in a few churches to a common characteristic of the life of most churches.

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The Big Idea: The discipleship system of your church is perfectly designed to produce the kind of men you have sitting in the pews (or not sitting in the pews).

What about your church? In business, there is an axiom: “Your system is perfectly designed to product the results you are getting.” I’m available, today, to help you create a custom discipleship program to fit the unique needs of your church.

Michael Grimm is committed to serving pastors and leaders in the communities surrounding Chandler. As a trained Man in the Mirror expert in men’s discipleship, Michael guides pastors and leaders through a comprehensive strategy to reach and disciple all of their men because every man discipled impacts a marriage, family, workplace and community. Discipleship changes everything!

Michael Grimm, a lifelong resident of Phoenix area, was born in Decatur GA, and now lives in Chandler. Michael is an Air Force veteran, has worked in aerospace, chemical and electronics manufacturing industries. Michael trained as a Six Sigma Green Belt, and has spent much of his professional career applying process improvement and problem-solving skills. He is a long-time member of his church, and has served in various roles including leader of men’s discipleship. Named “Mr. Fix-it” by his wife, Michael actually enjoys working on his “Honey-Do” list in his spare time.

Plugging-In with Christian Men

Heights Church Men

“At Heights, we come alongside men, equipping them to make an impact in their church, in their community, and in their families. Through bible study, mentorship, and recreation, men find new ways to live out their faith and connect with God’s unfailing love.”  See the Men’s Calendar for more details.


The Cornerstone Men’s Breakfast is a great way to plug-in with Cornerstone Church.  Breakfast is FREE … and the brisket is fork-tender!  We eat, share and have a 30-min devotional on the 3rd Saturday of each month.” See the Men’s Calendar for more details. 

Prescott Christian Church Men

“The PCC Men’s Ministry is geared to provide discipleship training for men who desire to become more Christ-like in their daily walk at work, with friends  and at home with their family.  Jump-in and share breakfast with us when you’re in our neighborhood.”
See the Men’s Calendar for more details.

Crossfire men's breakfast

“Every Thursday for almost a decade, men have gathered to share breakfast, devotions, study and prayer at American Lutheran Church.  This is an amazing group of guys.  Join us soon!”  See the Men’s Calendar for more details.

“We live in a culture that has, for centuries now, cultivated the idea that a skeptical person is always smarter than one who believes. You can almost be as stupid as a cabbage as long as you doubt.”

– Dallas Willard, Hearing God”